Thursday, March 08, 2018

तूमदहोश हो वहा पे "नवीन" आशियाने में , हम भीमशगूल है यहाँ ज़िंदगी के मयखाने में 
लेकिन मेरी अनकही सी बातो में या फिर भूले हुए से ज़ज़्बातो में  

मुझे ये लगता है सायद आज भी मुझमे जिंदा हो तुम.

पीछे छोड़ आया हु मै वो लम्हे जो तेरे साथ बिताये थे , जहा कही हम दोनों ने ख्वाब सजाये थे
लेकिन मेरे विचारो की अजीब सी उलझन में ,या फिर कही मेरे अंतमन की कसमकश में

मुझे ये लगता है सायद आज भी मुझमे जिंदा हो तुम.

मिटा दिया मैंने तेरा नाम अपनी जिंदगी की किताब से , भूल चूका  तेरी सब बाते
लेकिन मेरी धड़कन की तान में , या फिर मेरी नज़र के आईने में कही 

मुझे ये लगता है सायद आज भी मुझमे जिंदा हो तुम

तेरी महक जो आती थी मेरे सांसो से उसको मिटा दिया है , देख ले मेरे हाथ मैंने तेरी लकीर को हटा दिया है
लेकिन मेरे यादो के समुन्दर की गहराई में , या फिर मेरी महत्वकान्छा के ऊँचे पहाडो में


मुझे ये लगता है सायद आज भी मुझमे जिंदा हो तुम

Monday, July 18, 2011

Right Balance In Life

Upon flipping a coin ten times and having ten successive "heads" as an outcome, is heads or tails more likely on the eleventh toss? Surely it's tails? Wrong! It is a 50/50 chance of course! Every time!


You may have fallen into this trap before - the "Gambler's Fallacy" - where there is a tendency to think that future probabilities are influenced by past events.

Judgement errors happen to everyone regardless of age, gender, intelligence or education. The brain is sifting through many hundreds of subconscious processes even if we are only concentrating on one thing at a time. Misplaced judgments is a fundamental principle behind the ideas of motivation and success.

One thing is sure that you cannot keep everyone happy and at times you need to choose or prioritize whose happiness is most important to you. It is these decisions which set the pace of your life. It is these decisions which reflect your values and principles.

If you are not happy, you cannot make others happy, howsoever hard you may try. It is like, love yourself and respect yourself to be loved and respected by others.

We all have gone through this dilemma at one or another stage of our life, when we have to choose between the happiness of our family and our professional growth and have to sacrifice one for another. You need both love and support of your family and success and growth in your professional life (in your career). You cannot give your 100% to your family and 0% to your profession and you cannot give 0% to your family and 100% to your profession. It is like Game Theorem, wherein the actual size of market will remain same and loss of one will be gain of another and it is up to the individual to set the balance.

You cannot have control on your birth.and same way you cannot have control on your death but one thing you can control the way you live. Once you are in this world and grown-up enough to understand, who you are, you start making choices. At that stage you should not bother about anyone except your parents. Once you complete your basic qualification, your schooling, you start making choices and here whatever choice you make or the decision that you take, will have long-lasting effect in your life. Then you choose area of your interest and followed by your decision about the type of career that you want. You choose to get married. You choose to have kids. Now, for you your family consists of your parents, your spouse and your kids. Sometimes, you can have "Conflict of Interest" in these family members as well.

Love, care, understanding and togetherness, all these are required in life but along with these things, you need many other things in life and for that you need money. You don't need to be a billionaire or the wealthiest person in the world, but you need fair amount of money / wealth to get the basic necessities of life, which can be as basic as food, shelter and cloths....  

so make pritory in your life and keep in mind that balance is key of success.......

Sunday, October 03, 2010

lie in a relationship

I am thinking that it's right or wrong to lie to your partner... i did this some time for some reason ... For better or for worse, our romantic relationships are not always as straightforward as we would like them to be.... Love creates both happiness and heartache, opportunities and constraints, joy and sorrow...

is it normal(right) to lie in a relationship ???                           
if you are looking answer my answer is YES....
but not 100% sure ...ask yourself and you will find out.
there are many reason that i lied to my partner
and may be same case for you also...
you can't afford to always tell the truth if you want to keep your relationship healthy..

Women say they want men to be honest but  The truth is, women force men to lie..
most common question woman ask is "What are you thinking about ?" and you simply say the truth "nothing " and the response you got from woman are " you are lying " because if you tell truth also that doesn't matter , the fact matter here is what she really wants to hear and that's the truth... so here man start lying create some story or Take her hands, look deep into her eyes with all the supreme male confidence you can muster and tell her she's the most desirable, beautiful woman you've ever seen....
Remember, she wants you to lie. She expects you to lie. It's all part of the mental games she forces you to play.
sometimes You may feel that it's easier to lie rather than experience/endure your partner's emotional reaction
you don't want your partner to get hurt. In this instance, you're not protecting your partner from something that you've done that might be hurtful to him/her. Rather, you're trying to shield your partner from something you discovered  or an opinion that you believe would be upsetting.. it's normal in my opinion and necessary also for healthy relationship.... but what's the limits ...
there should be some boundary like why you lying to your partner and what's the motive ...  truth is the best policy but not always ....your views most welcome