lie in a relationship

I am thinking that it's right or wrong to lie to your partner... i did this some time for some reason ... For better or for worse, our romantic relationships are not always as straightforward as we would like them to be.... Love creates both happiness and heartache, opportunities and constraints, joy and sorrow...

is it normal(right) to lie in a relationship ???                           
if you are looking answer my answer is YES....
but not 100% sure ...ask yourself and you will find out.
there are many reason that i lied to my partner
and may be same case for you also...
you can't afford to always tell the truth if you want to keep your relationship healthy..

Women say they want men to be honest but  The truth is, women force men to lie..
most common question woman ask is "What are you thinking about ?" and you simply say the truth "nothing " and the response you got from woman are " you are lying " because if you tell truth also that doesn't matter , the fact matter here is what she really wants to hear and that's the truth... so here man start lying create some story or Take her hands, look deep into her eyes with all the supreme male confidence you can muster and tell her she's the most desirable, beautiful woman you've ever seen....
Remember, she wants you to lie. She expects you to lie. It's all part of the mental games she forces you to play.
sometimes You may feel that it's easier to lie rather than experience/endure your partner's emotional reaction
you don't want your partner to get hurt. In this instance, you're not protecting your partner from something that you've done that might be hurtful to him/her. Rather, you're trying to shield your partner from something you discovered  or an opinion that you believe would be upsetting.. it's normal in my opinion and necessary also for healthy relationship.... but what's the limits ...
there should be some boundary like why you lying to your partner and what's the motive ...  truth is the best policy but not always ....your views most welcome

Babri Masjid vs Ram Janmabhoomi

We are waiting for the Supreme court order for the Ram Janmabhoomi Babri Masjid issue.We have to accept the court order or go to higher court. Ayodhya issue was in the news for last 20 years.Now it is the time for final verdict.

I am thinking on this topic that there is any way An acceptable solution is possible for this issue??????....
Many good solution but which is going by LAW i don't know ...........

FIRST :-

In history it is noted that before India got independence, all Hindus and Muslims pray for their God at the same place. And there was a railing between the masjid and Ram Chabutara. So, this can be the best practice. Both Hindus and Muslims will get satisfaction from this decision. Both have to understand each other's holly feeling. It should not be like 'I am Hindu so I think that Ram Temple should be there and I am Muslim so I think that masjid should be there'........

SECOND :-

It is that the government should established such memorial at the disputed site that could be reminds the citizens of the country about the diverse culture of the country. It can be a museum, or a park, a Garden, or a library, or an educational institute or so...on which could be commonly used by all the communities of the country.....
However, after establishment of the memorial of communal harmony of India, it should be protected in such a way that no miscreant element should be able to create any disturbance at the place.

THIRD :-  Hindus should apologise to Indian Muslims for demolishing the Babri Masjid. Then, Muslims should accept the apology and hand over the former location of the Babri Masjid place to Hindus.

This is brilliant. Islam is a religion that does not give any relevance to where you pray to Allah.

Hindus, whether they like it or not, did something that was clearly against the law
Unlike Islam, Hinduism,has reverence for places and locations, and Indian Muslims should respect that, and hand over the place to Hindus.

FORTH :- 

The only acceptable solution to the problem will be to maintain status at the place. Leave it as it is where it is level.

FIFTH :-
This is going to be a serious issue .The only way out of it is that just don't build any thing .What you gone do with temple /Masjid at that place just hold your sentiments look forward to a better future .God never resides in building but in your mind.... A better option would be to plant trees all over the  area since environment today needs more protection than anything else. FOLLOW THE GREEN WAY

SIXTH :- YOU TELL ME ......
STOP fighting in the name of religion.......

peepli live

Last Thursday me and my friend deepak decide to go for movie and choice is peepli live becasue od Aamir khan production....And we enjoyed the movie lot ...

After seeing movie it's difficult to believe that it's first movie of Anusha Rizvi as director...the subject shows in movie is very serious and it's not contain one subject the movie rise lot of issues with hypocrisy and humor of society.
The film is about two destitute farmers in an Indian village facing the risk of losing their land for failing to repay their bank credit. When one of them announces his decision to commit suicide so that his family can claim a government support, his house is soon besieged by TV reporters, politicians, police, gawkers and businessmen.

Side line story also shows how media rise one issue based on TRP , how one party mingle with opposition party based on vote banks ,central and state government fighting over issue and blaming each others. film shown vote-hungry politicians and the over-enthusiastic, TRP-seeking desperate electronic media jostling for eyeballs.

movie makes a far greater impact than a mere documentary, had it tackled the burning issue with in a delightfully humorous manner.It's a well penned and well executed film that deals with a serious issue in a witty and entertaining manner.

AT last i can go and watch movie ..... enjoy and think...

mercy killing or mercy death

I am reading newspaper and found that one lady from karanataka (HB Karibasamma, a 70-year-old woman) also filed a case for mercy killing due to illness.
Karibasamma is suffering from intervertebral disc prolapse, commonly known as slip disc. The ailment affects the spine, tearing its outer fibrous ring and swelling the soft central portion. The tears in the disc ring may result in inflammatory chemical mediators which cause severe pain. Karibasamma, who is also diabetic, is suffering from the ailment for the past 10- 11 years.She had been giving representations to various authorities seeking permission to end her life from 2003.

She is asking it form 2003 and still wating for court to grant the right to die with dignity . but still no progress in this case and many other similar cases.

I am thinking about this and internet found one other person who's also filed a case
(SV Srinivas Rao seeking its permission for mercy death for himself and the rest of the family)
SV Srinivas Rao had taken a huge amount as loan from a city bank which he found unable to repay. There were also several cases pending against him like murder of Naveena, a lady advocate, by her lover.

SV Srinivas Rao requested the court that after the mercy killing, his house should be given away to some charitable trust.He also appealed to the court to dismiss all cases pending against him

Both are totally different condition and both person demanding same things , there is no golden rule as such so i can say mercy killing is right or wrong.
It's extremely confusing and difficult also to reach any concrete conclusion. It is such a long standing and controversial debate which has no end because both the groups of thought have hundreds of arguments in pros and cons.

So first let us know what kind of killing this is.
I have traced out two definitions by surfing the Internet:
(1) An easy or painless death or intentional ending of the life of a person suffering from incurable or painful disease at the patient’s request.
(2) The intentional termination of the life of one human being by another.

But question still in my mind that "Mercy killing should be legalized."

i am strongly against the legalization of mercy killing due to numerous reasons
 it is very traumatizing for a family memeber to decide whether a person should live or not, because i believe that the right to take lives lies solely with the one who gave us the life in the first place-God.
legalizing mercy killing we will be giving a weapon that can be used as a cover-up for cold blooded murder. 
One may argue that voluntary euthanasia could be legalized but for that a patient has to be mentally prepared to accept the fact that his life will be terminated.Thus,the level of competence comes in, and competence cannot be defined or determined.also,sometimes a patient can be put under psychological pressure or brainwashed to believe that there is no chance left and thus forced to consent to voluntary euthanasia, to fulfil the ulterior motives of accomplices, family members or any person involved.

Now I look these thing in different way and i totally disagree with above comments

AS likely as this decision can be painfully traumatic for a family member.
Families of individuals suffering with such diseases see their bright, happy relative reduced to a shadow of their former self. Their loved one suffers a slow and painful death. Surely, it is kinder to put a mother, father, brother or sister out of their misery and allow them to die a peaceful death, as is their last wish.

Human beings are independent biological entities, and as an adult, have the right to take and carry out decisions about themselves.
God gave us life to treasure and we should not waste it by any means-euthanasia or just plain suicide-and I agree, but God also gave us free will ( the power of making free choices that are unconstrained by external circumstances or by an agency such as fate or divine will, as defined by the online free dictionary). So that means that it is in our own free will whether to keep living or take our life. If one is suffering from an incurable disease and that it is causing him great pain, then it is only rightful and merciful if he is allowed to end his agony by means of Mercy,
some reason by listed below.

Rights of the individual
Pain & Suffering
Quality of life; risks of criminalization
Animal rights

Again create a lot of thought in my mind ..... still not able to reach end the debate..... but can say it's depends on case to case and person to person.......

Mehangai TAB (1974) and AAJ (2010) SAME

And AAJ

Taller buildings but shorter temper

George Carlin, comedian of the 70s and 80s whose wife recently passed away, wrote the following eloquent and appropriate piece on our times:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more
knowledge , but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've
been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window
and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

THINK ABOUT THIS

A man was polishing his new car; his 4 yr old son picked up a
stone &
Scratched on the side of the car. In anger, the furious Man
took his child's hand & hit it many times, not realizing he
was using a wrench.

At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to
multiple fractures. When the child saw his father....with painful eyes he
asked
Dad when will my fingers grow back?' The man was so hurt
and speechless.
He went back to the car and kicked it many times.

Devastated by his own actions... sitting in front of the car he
looked at the scratches,
His son had written 'I LOVE YOU DADDY'.
Next day that man committed suicide...

Anger and Love have no limits...Always remember....
"Things are to be used and people are to be loved"

But the problem in today's world is.....

"People are being USED & Things are being LOVED"
THINK ABOUT THIS................!!!!!!!!!!

!!!!!!!

?The Best Comparison?

one of The Best Comparison i come across...... 

Love Marriage Arranged Marriage Resembles? procedural programming? language. We have some set of functions like flirting, going to movies together, making long conversations on phone and then try to fit all functions to the candidate we like. Similar to? object oriented programming? approach. We first fix the candidate and then try to implement functions on her. The functions are added to supplement the main program. The functions can be added or deleted. Family system hangs because hardware (called Parents ?) is not responding. Compatible with hardware ?(Parents ). You are the project leader so u are responsible for implementation and execution of PROJECT- married life. You are a team member under project leader (parents) so they are responsible for successful execution of project Married life. Client expectations include exciting feature as spouse cooking food, washing clothes etc. All these features are covered in the SRS (System Req. Specification) as required features. Love Marriage is like? Windows? , beautiful n seductive.... Yet one never knows when it? willcrash ....? if crashes that's the end Arranged Marriage is like? Unix .... Boring n colorless... but still extremely? reliable ?n? robust . ?May crash but easy to recover

Buhe Bariyan ultimate song

TERRORISM VS NAXALISM

There are some more problems which India suffers from and which have proved themselves to be the top class priority demanding obstacles in order to clear the road to reach the success sooner. Not only India but the whole world today is a victim of these things, but India has proved herself to be an exception. I am sure that till now, it was not a very clear one. Let me now talk about those two things which are really very big hindrances in the path of India's successThey are NOT like economic problem, population problem etc.. BUT DIFFERENT AS Naxalism and Terrorism. What are they?
Terrorism basically means non-legitimate operations which are violent in nature and are made to kill others. Even naxalism is the same thing but what creates a difference is their positions in the nation. It is just like the external and internal type of thing. Terrorism is the violent and ill-legitimate thing which terrorizes the nation from outside and naxalism is something which engulfs the country from the inside.
We are no more safe with that mentality. Today every son fears to let his father go outside in the suburbs during the night time. No one knows, we can die just the next second. Yes this was always true. We could die anytime, but today it is not because of accident, it can be naxalism or terrrorism.

Now let us talk about the problems. Which one is more danger? Terrorism or naxalism. Both are equally danger because there is no substitute for death. Death finishes the lives and leaves an impact of it in many other people's life as well.terrorism is that who attacks an unarmed individual and basically those who create fear and panic amongst the aam junta.
The belief that violence or its threat will be effective, and usher in change. Another way of saying this is: the belief that violent means justify the ends.Terrorism is taken as the activities done basically by organizations such as Alquaida and Taliban.On the other hand naxalism also stretches it's hands to our collars and it threatens the piece of our lives. naxalities are the one from tribal schedule, and they had their own demand for the welfare of their society.The cause of terrorism may be different but the causes of naxalism are more or less always same. Why does naxalism exist. It is because of social factors like poverty, unemployment, and racial discrimination. According to an estimation, if corruption keeps persisting as it persists today then in not more than a decade about 30% of the people would have become naxalites or would be having some connection with them.


Naxalism and terrorism are something about which we fear to talk about even.Naxals should be treated like any other terrorists. They should be apprehended or killed. That would teach a lesson to all those who take on the law! Initially there was sympathy for the Naxals as they professed to espouse the cause of the poor villagers and tribals. But when they start killing policemen and innocent people, they lose all right to sympathy. And ther supporters too become supporters of terrorism.  
And the worst part is our politics, even home minister refused to accept them as terrorists. like Union Home Minister P Chidambaram has said that Naxalism is not the same as terrorism in Jammu and Kashmir and mentioned that the Maoists, who are creating problems in the north-east India should be treated as an entirely different entity.He has also urged the Naxals o give up violence and hold peace talks with government. Chidambaram said that the Naxals were not demanding for secession with India whereas this is the aim of the terrorists of Jammu and Kashmir.
Some political parties are supporting Naxalites from outside and some are watching it as mute spectators. We have social activists, thinkers and authors like Arundhati Roy who is openly supporting the Naxals and glorifying them through her articles. The media is too keen taking interviews of these Naxalites.
It is time the Govt. wakes up and startstaking action, instead of just making statements. The Naxals should be invited for talks, if they don't respond, then 'bullet for bullet' is the only answer. Also, hopefully all the self-professed intellectuals will stop their support for these killers.
Initially and still some set of society have sympathy for them as they are recognised as the tribals and poor people without any resources to live. But now, with their heinous acts of killing innocent people, have lost all rights of sympathy.
 
At last i can say that :- Same wine in different bottles. So the lable has just changed but content remain the same.Anti soclal power hungry elements get attracted to this sort of wine, who feel that their life is worthless and that they should make other people life worthless.naxal problem is much bigger than cross border terrorism...Therefore, the nation should tackle it with the same degree of seriousness as in case of terrorism..